I’ve written this blog for a year and a half and I know I’ve covered Facebook several times. In general I think it has been a great tool for keeping up with friends and family. Unfortunately there are some who repeatedly ruin the experience for others and either don’t quite get the concept or are so narcissistic that they are beyond comprehension that they are doing anything obnoxious.
Facebook is a social media tool meaning it’s meant as a way to be social. Unless you go through life discussing your personal problems with strangers on the street, wage political debates with family at the Thanksgiving Day table or walk around showing pictures of yourself scantily clad to friends you run into on the street, don’t do it on Facebook.
Do you call your in-laws to discuss your marital problems and what a lazy SOB you’re married to? If not, don’t post your personal issues on the Internet for them to read about.
Do not get huffy when people you don’t like see the pictures that you post online. The young crowd may refer to this practice as creeping but I disagree. If you post photos to your Facebook page, then you cannot get angry when others see them, comment on them or share them. You are in control here – you decide to either accept a friendship or not. You decide who sees your photos – the general public – only friends – or friends of friends or a select few. If you do not want people to see photos of you drunk out of your mind, then don’t upload them to Facebook the second after they are taken.. You may find imposing a 24 hour rule helpful.
People who post strange or obscure status updates such as “I can’t believe we’re going through this again, please pray for us.” People who do this are looking for attention. They relish the words of support dozens of people will contribute to the thread. Gee Lassie what is it? Did Timmy fall down the well, again? Has the roof blown off the house? Has another family of raccoons taken refuge in the attic? If it’s a delicate topic such as your hemorrhoids are flaring up again, try a private message to your ten or twenty BFFs or better yet pick up the phone. If something truly awful has happened, be a little more specific….it helps for those wanting to pray for you. If you are trying to convey important updates on a family member or friend’s health, a Facebook page can be a helpful tool. Use it appropriately.
Instead of complaining in your status updates about people who have opinions about how you chose to live your life, about how you raise your children or spend your money quit posting a complete itinerary of each and every day of your life. Unless you’re being followed around by a webcam, no body has to know and more importantly nobody really cares.
If you’ve signed up for Facebook because you enjoy keeping up with friends and family, seeing adorable photos of their children and pets and posting funny pictures on each others’ pages, then carry on. As for me, it’s Sunday morning, I’m going to go creep on all the drunken photos posted last night.